I have just had one of the most humiliating experiences (deep down to my soul humiliating), and the only person I could be embarrassed in front of was myself-my silly kitty wasn't even around for this one. I am not sure why I am blogging about this for all to read, but I just feel like I need to-like it will be theraputic to my hurting heart, that it will help me and other women to resist feeling this way ever about themselves.
I had the day off today-first weekday off of my holiday break. Pure delightfulness was this morning for me-even though I was cleaning and organizing-it was just so nice to be HOME on a Monday morning instead of dealing with all of the normal Manic Monday tasks. Then I ran some errands, did some Christmas shopping, and then it was home to get ready to head out to a Mary Kay Christmas Party. Yes, I became a Mary Kay Independent Beauty Consultant a few months ago, and am LOVING blessing ladies by helping them feel pretty, which makes this story EVEN more ridiculous. So, I'm home with just enough time to get all snazzy for the party-my thought is I have to be looking pretty good, seeing as how most other people there will be dressed to the 9's, probably. (Note: Number 1 bad thought in my mind) I curl my hair, put on eye make up (which I hardly ever even wear), put on real lip gloss (colored I mean), and feel almost "pretty". I then put on my new headband that I picked up for myself today in the midst of shopping for others, and then I feel pretty. No lie, NLR, whatever Bobby and Lunchbox mean by that, I felt pretty. It is rare for me to feel that way (sorry, I have always struggled with this one-ask my mother if you want some funny stories!). Then, its is time to change out of my sweats I had been running around town in all day and put on the snazzy, MK worthy outfit. The moment I had it all on (it inclued tights and boots...took a couple of minutes) I felt more ugly than I had felt in a long time. I don't know why this just sprung up and happened to me, but the outfit just didn't work. Maybe its the extra candy and sweets I had been eating since Thanksgiving and the minimal working out I had been doing, maybe it was the outfit. I tried on a different shirt with the skirt and boots I had on-hopeless. Then the teenager in me came out-the feeling like I was so ugly that I just could NOT go to this party, could not show my face among all of the other beautiful people that would be there. So here I sit, at home with my kitty, not at a party. I am so ashamed of myself.
I write this not because I want pity or oohs and aws from anyone. I write this so I will not let this happen to myself ever again. I feel so, so silly and so much like an awful friend for not going to this party. Why on earth would I worry about my looks in front of getting to have fun with some friends, or to get to visit with some friends? I write this because I am sure other women out there have felt like this at one time or another, and I think it helps us women to realize there are others out there that have moments like these. I think it helps me to move on from a bad moment in my life when I admit my mistakes to someone, so I can hear it out loud-helps me to realize my own stupidity on some issues that I have with myself. But most of all, sharing this with you right now helps me realize and know that I don't want to feel like this again ever, that I am almost 28 years old and I don't want to be having these teenage like feelings ever again. It helps me realize that something needs to change in my life to prevent me from feeling this way. I have 2 things I pray for strength in doing to change right now:
1. Let HIM become greater, and let me become so much less.
2. Stop eating the sweets, return to phase 1, return to my bike rides and runs, where Christ does seem to become so much more in me and I so much less.
That's all for now, from this adult woman, who is hoping the teenager will be all gone by morning...